Saturday Success: a superior feedback loop, 'always selling' & 8 ways to master your monkey mind
Making life & money work for you.
Welcome back to the Saturday Success Series email!
This week we have:
Master Yourself: A superior feedback loop to turn critics into allies
Master Your Money: A Mark Cuban quote about business/selling
The Weekly Special: 8 Ways to Master Your Monkey Mind
The goal here is maximum value, so let’s get to it.
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Master Yourself
Today’s goal?
Help you create partners instead of critics.
We all need feedback, advice, critiques in life.
We can’t get better if we don’t ask for more information about ourselves, our responses, our actions.
Real time feedback is best. But all feedback can be useful.
There is an optimal way to ask for this information.
Asking for feedback creates a critic.
Asking for advice creates a partner.
Ask for advice, not for feedback.
Requests for advice pushes the other party to adopt a mentor mentality. This person is now on your side, they care about your outcome. After all, you needed their advice! And now, you’re using their advice!
When you ask for feedback, it creates a critique environment. They’re aiming to pick you apart. That’s what you wanted after all, isn’t it?
Master Your Money
“I still work hard to know my business. I’m continuously looking for ways to improve all my companies, and I’m always selling. Always.” - Mark Cuban
Knowledge.
If you’re going to be in business, you have to know your industry and what you’re talking about.
If you don’t know much, you can’t improvement much.
Sales.
Everyone is selling something. You’re a writer? Cool, you sell your writing.
You sell you. You’re the brand here. How can you improve your brand?
Weekly Special
8 Ways to Master Your Monkey Mind
Your little monkey brain will bounce around all day if you let it.
It’ll tell you lies, it’ll keep you distracted and it’ll ensure your day is never yours.
Evolution hasn’t caught up to our modern days. Most of us are still at the mercy of our more primitive mindset. Or as my girlfriend calls it “my little goldfish brain”.
Let’s get you beyond that.
Be Persistent
Discipline, new mental models, new habits…these don’t form overnight. Catch yourself slipping and readjust real time.
Persistent people understand discipline is like a muscle. Keep working it and you get stronger.
Be Flexible
Look at things from multiple angles, put yourself in others’ shoes, be open to changing your mind, always think in terms of how many options you have.
Life is not black and white. It’s mostly gray areas.
Take Risks, Responsibly
Try new things, push your comfort boundaries, stop overthinking and just start doing.
You need to be smart about it, but risk-taking is part of success in life.
Seek Out Awe
Have fun with the world around you. Stop to take in small bits of wonder.
Example, the golden tree in my backyard blowing in the breeze. It had me mesmerized a few weeks ago, before winter really hit and took it away.
Gather Data
Use all of your senses, pay attention to the world around you, see patterns and how things really work vs. how you want them to work.
Data tells you the truth even when your feelings want to lie to you.
Think About Your Thinking
Understand your limitations, recognize when you get pessimistic, catch patterns.
Meditation helps. You can learn to spot your thoughts and let them go. Clarity is the goal when it comes to thinking.
Listen to Understand
Stop thinking about being understood and worry more about understanding those around you.
I love the saying “you have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason”. Listen twice as much as you speak.
Mange Impulsivity
Learn to take a moment. Don’t fall for “act now” schemes. Create a plan so you can calmly follow it.
Example- with investments I don’t get too high or too low. They go up and down but my plan remains the same. I buy assets every 2 weeks and ignore the markets in between.
Thanks for reading! If you found this valuable, please share with someone who could use it. See you next Saturday!
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